Sunday, November 22, 2015

Everyday Hero Family Assessment

Everyday Hero Family Assessment
Ryan J. Hulbert, Ph.D.

The family is the basic unit of society. In family relationships we experience our greatest challenges and also our greatest joys. Heroic family relationships are created by healthy behaviors and courtesies done on a daily basis. When these actions are consistently practiced by family members, strong bonds of love, devotion and shared strengths are formed, which support the family members for a lifetime and beyond. Becoming an Everyday Hero Family is one of the most noble of all goals.

This family self-assessment is designed to be used in the following manner:

     1.   The family choosing to participate in the assessment, and the proposed ongoing
           process of improvement, will choose a consistent time on a weekly basis to
           complete the assessment and record their progress.

     2.   Complete the assessment with input from all willing family members.

     3.   Record the score for each of the six categories, and also the total score for the

     4.   Set a goal as a family to improve the following week by selecting at least one,
           and no more than three of the categories to earn one additional point that week.

    5.   The categories are based on an acronym of “FAMILY.”  These categories are
           Fun, Affection, Meals together, Intelligence and Income, Listening, and Yearning (to improve).

    6.   Your family earns a point by the number of days in a week, two or more family 
          members do the following everyday behaviors:

FUN: Something fun together and laughed together (0-6 points)

0 days 1 day 2 days 3 days 4 days 5 days 6 days

AFFECTION: Showed affection to each other by words or actions (0-6 points)

0 days 1 day 2 days 3 days 4 days 5 days 6 days

MEALS: Shared a meal together and had a conversation during the meal (0-6 points)

0 days 1 day 2 days 3 days 4 days 5 days 6 days

INTELLIGENCE AND INCOME: We shared with each other ideas and plans about growing our family economy, by discussing topics such as improving education, employment, earning power, budgeting, saving, and giving (6 points)


LISTENING: Made time to listen to each other to try to really understand each other (0-6 points)

0 days 1 day 2 days 3 days 4 days 5 days 6 days

YEARNING: Making a plan for the coming week to improve by at least one point in
one category (15 points)


Score =


35-45    Excellent!  Keep being consistent in these heroic family behaviors

25-34    Good!  Keep happily moving toward more heroic family behaviors

15-24    Fairly Good. You are on your way to more heroic family behaviors

5-14      Average. Who wants to be average when a hero family is waiting to grow?

0-4        A hero family starts with one small step at a time.  It is worth it!